For the longest time, I never understood why I tired out so easily after a day of work.
I tend to be really focused on work to the point of running myself ragged without realizing it until the job is done, resulting in a crash (nap) once I got home.
So when I came across the advice of someone noticing how tense I was, he mentioned, “I know what it is! You leave a piece of you with every job, don’t you?”
I had to think for a moment exactly what that meant. Then it hit me.
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I tend to be a perfectionist with my work. So if something isn’t just so, I make it so. And don’t stop until it’s done right by my standards.
Nothing really wrong with that, except for the fact of me not realizing just how hard I really do push myself over the brink due to that perfectionism. Especially when you’re working against a deadline.
So I decided to try something different the next time I went to work. I took deep breaths, (apparently I hold my breath too?! why do we need others to tell us what we do?), relaxed, and got to work. But with a different attitude this round.
I decided rather than push myself against the clock, I’d just work along side it. If I ran late, then I’d return another day to finish the job. But under no circumstances would I push myself over that painful brink again.
Well, something changed. I realized I was getting just as much done working relaxed as I did when I worked in a panic against the clock. And the difference was, once I got home, I didn’t feel a need to crash. I was happier, more relaxed, and didn’t feel a need to crawl up the stairs, feeling for the edge of my bed.
Why am I telling you this? Because I’ve been putting this into practice a lot lately, and it’s been working. I care very much about the work I do, however walking away being able to feel this differently astounded me. And the fix all along was how I felt about things.
The mind is a tricky, complex thing and I do believe it needs training. So next time you look at the time and race out the door, here’s to you not seeing it as a deadline, but an ‘adventure.’
Adventures are fun! Why not make your entire day become one?
Here’s a great read on setting limits by Miss Mustard Seed. Sage advice!