What are we meant to do in life? Are we close? Or did we miss the mark? And what do we need to do in order to get there?
All you know for sure is, you feel restless.
I get it. I actually feel doubt several times a day. And sometimes I’ll wake up at night and feel it too.
But then other times I know exactly what I’m suppose to do. It feels right when time stands still and you’re totally in your element.
But then, something goes wrong or maybe you’re feeling you aren’t doing enough or earning enough and you start doubting again. Sound familiar?
So how do you know where you’re going and what you’re doing?
I’ve been self employed for nearly all my adult life so I’ve always called my own shots. I like it that way, but self employment can be rocky too. If you take a vacation, there’s no pay. If you wish for benefits, you have to buy them.
But without a doubt, I know self employment is for me. Being self employed has much to do with believing you can do whatever it is you set out to do. And then do it.
I suppose that’s why I slipped into blogging so effortlessly. If I like something, I just do it. Then I test myself and see how far I can take it while still enjoying it. And if it starts to feel like work, I change things up to like it again. Always testing, always trying, always inventing and recreating the wheel. I have to say I’m more restless if I DON’T change something than if the same thing is ahead of me. I crave change.
I told someone at my day job not long ago that I found it hard to letter a vehicle on both sides, because I’d already done it once on one. And that I stayed up way too late at night because it was hard to turn all the fun off.
Feeling rather silly for not being able to completely control how I was feeling, he said…
“That’s because you’re creative. Normal won’t do. Your wheels are always turning, ready to crank out the next big idea. I envy you.”
Wow. And here I thought I was just a Facebook addict!
So here’s a little check list I give myself when I start doubting what I’m doing with my life… see if it doesn’t chime in with you as well.
What do you LOVE to do?
It’s kinda really that easy. Dream of your perfect day. Then make that day happen. Then make it happen again. And again. Then figure out a way to monetize it. Suddenly… you’re doing it!
But wait! Say you KNOW what you want to do, but you don’t know how? Well, that’s when learning comes into play. Take a class, work with a friend, create an online group… and get learning so you can do more.
Give it time.
If you’re looking for a way to earn income, don’t expect it overnight. So it’s safe to say, don’t leave the day job until your cool job is earning more than the day job. That is, if you need the money. If you don’t and you have financial support, run like the wind! But still, don’t expect the income to come quickly. My good friend reminds me a plan takes about 5 years to materialize. He’s been kinda right.
Continue to change… or morph.
I had a very successful company. I actually gave it all I got. And had an employee as well. But one day my son came into the picture and my passion changed overnight. So I coasted with the job. I woke up 20 years later wondering what on earth happened to me. I loved my son, but I didn’t love the job any longer. What happened?!
I changed. But I didn’t change what I was doing to continue to love it. In other words, I didn’t continue to learn… or morph. Be willing to learn new things all the time, because THAT will ultimately change your game and get you where you desire to go. If you aren’t learning, you aren’t changing, and you’ll stay right where you are.
Boy, that blogger sure has a nice camera! Doesn’t compare to yours, does it? No wonder you can’t get the shots! And how about all that traffic they get? How on earth do they get so many comments? Or wow, their social media numbers went through the roof! Whatever did you do wrong to not be there?
I get it. I’m guilty too. But know what? YOU will grow where YOUR strengths are.
It’s ok to be happy for another and learn how others do things. But your life is yours. Your circumstances are different. And so is your own plan. Be willing to learn, but do what works for you in YOUR time. And feel no shame nor guilt! Compare you to YOU so you see growth, but not against another. That isn’t even applicable.
Maybe you’re already there.
I was at a friend’s one time and feeling particularly great. No reason why really, just felt good. We broke into a conversation and I said something to the effect that I didn’t know what to do ‘next’. And she pointed out…
“I think you’re already there!”
That taught me to appreciate right where I was, even though my story was far from finished. I believe there’s a season for everything. Maybe you aren’t suppose to be anywhere else at the moment because your family needs you more? You’re not ready? You aren’t to head in that direction? Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to just be, too!
Rather than promising yourself all these resolutions, or extremely lofty goals, why not strike out and just find what makes your heart happy?
Maybe that’s all that was missing all along.