To make matters even more interesting, I’m an over thinker type. If I get overwhelmed with a tricky situation or worse, if given OPTIONS (oh, the death of me!), I tend to walk away from it, rather than make a snap decision.
Good thing I KNOW how I love my coffee, or I’d be hitting caffeine withdrawl on an hourly basis!
In a nutshell, getting overwhelmed with indecision because you might ‘make a mistake’ can ultimately pull you down hard, causing all kinds of added stress.
But over time, I’ve come to realize, it isn’t quite as hard as I tend to make it, if I remember four key points.
Here’s how I go about making the right decisions.
1 / Get quiet
When I’m at home in the middle of chaos, I can’t write, I can’t DIY, I can’t function. So how can I think? I can’t.
My personal fix is hopping on my bike to the river. And honestly, it never fails. No one’s talking, nor is the homestead workload pulling me in all sorts of directions. I can just ‘be there’.
Bonus: my bike rides are now a nightly addiction, even when stress is not a factor. Which helps keep stress at bay!
Just pick a quiet spot where the daily demands aren’t pulling you away. I personally find it works better outside the home, so you can’t see the stuff that needs your attention.
Once given a little time for my head to clear, the hard work comes.
I ask myself a question, then offer an answer.
Which generally leads to another question. Demanding a new answer.
I keep working it until I’ve come to the final answer that feels right at the time.
But… what if my new answer ends up being the wrong decision?
3 / Allow mistakes to guide you.
When I first set out to make the above pallet chair, I had a LOT of trouble driving the screws into the 4x4s. They were so solid, and screw after screw broke with every attempt, alongside crooked joins. But the more I took things apart and redid them, trying different screws, the better I got. My last attempt had no broken screws, with joins super square and sturdy. I was so impressed with me! 🙂
It’s no different for life situations. If you’re struggling with a decision, you may choose a few wrong turns. But try seeing them as road signs that simply say, “Don’t turn there next time. Turn here instead…”
Mistakes happen when you need redirection. They are invaluable in guiding you the right way.
First, easy frame for blogging desk.
Challenging frame for pallet wood farm table styled desk
4 / Let new experiences and knowledge guide you to new directions
When I first handled tools, I was a mess. Everything felt wrong, and the results were rather disastrous. For that reason, many of my early builds were prebuilt things plunked together, with very little building needed. I call them cheater builds. (still my fav way of ‘building! MY SHED is still my fav)
But as my experience grew, things changed. My 2nd desk was a complete real build, created from scratch. The key was pushing myself into a new zone, which allowed me to get more technical and fancy with a custom build.
Life situations are the same way. Say you have to investigate resources for a difficulty you are going through. Once you know what your options are, you’re just flat out better informed on how to handle your crisis, with possibly even more options flying open.
So next time you come to a difficult decision:
Figure out answers.
Try something new.
Then try, try yet again until you reach success.
Isn’t it great to know that every second of every day brings you a fresh new chance to try again?