I grew up in a very traditional, loving family.
40 acre dairy farm, rambling old farmhouse, plenty of country to roam, horses in the cow fields, two great and present parents… I kinda had it all. (my very long story is HERE)
Never in my wildest dreams did I think I’d end up divorced.
I certainly didn’t wish this on myself nor my son. But… it happened.
Scrolling Facebook on Father’s Day, I saw many wonderful posts, honouring good men in kid’s lives.
But then there were the posts of disappointment, and loss. Which can make Father’s Day uncomfortable for so many.
Truth be told, Father’s Day or Mother’s Day can bring pain to untraditional families, or those that have dealt with other kinds of losses.
So how do you plough through all that?
Some days I feel sorry for my son or even myself. But then, I force myself to look on the other side. The success that came from my little, untraditional family.
Success? Oh yes. Indeed.
Would I have landed where I am now, in my dream job, in a renovated home, if my troubles had never transpired? I don’t know the answer to that, in all honestly.
But here’s one thing I do know. No matter where you’re at with your family, you do have the ability to make a downfall into a good thing. By hard work, overcoming obstacles, maybe even some counselling… whatever it takes.
We as adults have a responsibility and have the ability, to make where we’re at the best we can be.
So while I at times feel low on my own circumstances, and feel like I’m not doing enough for my own son or even myself, those feelings make me kick into action.
I’ll get angry at myself and bust off the electronics and do something cool together instead.
I’ll get an unwilling son involved in something, only realizing later he really loved it.
I’ll fight to the finish for a school issue that needs dealing with… because momma bear is alive and well and will attempt to get the best out of the best.
Not gonna lie… some days are tough. Really tough. And I don’t feel I’m pulling off my best.
Just today? We slept in… long. And my son fended for himself nuking cold pizza while I caught the writing bug to belt this out. Not my Mother of the Year moment by far.
But that’s when I focus on the highs. Where are we today because of who we are? Because of all the issues? And what can we DO today to make our lives even fuller? What would constitute having a Happy Father’s Day for those feeling less than?
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provide a safe home
be the best you can be
make each passing minute a good day
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If you’re hurting this Father’s Day, you are not alone.
But why not be proactive at the same time?
Do something fun! Let’s show our own families we can rise above what ails us, and make the best out of a great, new day.
Because, in all honestly, Father’s Day is but one day out of 365. Why allow even one of those days to bring you down?
You deserve a kudos.
You are making untraditional somehow work.
Quote source / Kimbery Jones Pothier
Artwork by / Funky Junk Interiors
Happy Father’s Day… to nontraditional families.
We can do this!
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How are you honestly doing?