When I first arrived in Maui, the two big aloe vera plants beside my outdoor lanai had seen better days. I’ve frequented this condo many times over the years and honestly, their current state shocked me.
They were both orange and dry. I honestly thought they were on their way out.
So I decided to do a test. I started to water one of them to see if it revived or if they were indeed toast.
Within 2 weeks, the watered plant (on the left) had morphed back to a partially vibrant green, promising to improve with even more tender loving care. I was thrilled it could be saved!
I promptly messaged the owner, alerting her that they had nearly been dead when I arrived, and was this perhaps something they just did this time of year?
Apparently they use to get more water. The in-ground sprinkling system use to hit them each evening. So now that it apparently doesn’t, they will require occasional watering to keep them healthy. And thank goodness, some condo renters recognize the need and go ahead and water. I think that may be due to the condo owner renting this place out to those they know.
I was thrilled to learn that I was part of the pack that cared enough to take notice and just try. And that these lovely plants that have saved me pain from countless sunburns over the years could be revived!
So I promptly started caring for the other plant as well by clipping out the dead parts, and watering them each day.
The good news is, BOTH plants are now vibrant green, and looking like I remember them looking!
However, if they don’t receive some attention along the way, they will indeed fade once again.
It’s all in the hands of future vacationers at this point.
I resonate this story to where I currently was and am in life.
I came to Hawaii completely broken.
My cup was so empty, it was as if there was a crack in the bottom that wouldn’t allow it to fill again. I had lost inspiration in everything I was doing, and didn’t even have the drive to walk into a therapist’s office to talk about it any longer. I cancelled my last appointment. I was just done. I needed to leave all things home and go somewhere that would stop the incessant mental merry-go-round so I could ease into a better place at my own pace. Fresh new surroundings do that for me.
(one day I hope to share the reason for the decline, however today’s post is about something else)
I had even lost the ability to make simple decisions. I allowed the condo availability to guide me on how long to stay.
Avail for 5 weeks? Ok. Done.
It was a long stretch I did second guess (of course).
However, being that long stretches aren’t new to me (my son and I have run here before to ‘get away’ from it all) I did not fear the length on my behalf. Because of the emotional place I was in, I KNEW I’d need time to first rest, then restlessness (for brave, new adventures) then a time to heal at the end of it.
I also knew I wanted my solo-somewhere to be right where I was because I had come to know this location and this condo like a second home. I knew I would be safe and I could be alone OR immersed in convo with others around me as desired. (vacationers have lots of time to chat!)
I feel new adventures take you to new places and divert your attention elsewhere that help short term, but they don’t necessarily allow healing time… you gotta get real quiet for that part.
I’ll write more about about how/why I travel/vacation, then you can see if it’s right for you.
Anyway, I recognized my downfall, and with a little encouragement along the way, I made the move to do something about it.
And it is working. This Hawaiian thing is WORKING!
Recognize what you need
I realize I’ve delivered this message in the past. But when you’re in the middle of it and it’s actually working, you feel this intense desire to share that in hopes that it strikes out to the right person in equal need.
I am the kind of person that tends to require a lot of pushing. It’s hard for me to give myself permission to do nice things for myself. I am just a giver. But I also know what happens when you stop treating yourself right.
Only you know your limits. If you find yourself hitting the same wall time after time, just wanting to feel good again, I’d say that’s a very good sign it’s time to make a bold move of your own.
While I don’t expect to arrive home with ALL the answers, the fog is clearing to the point where I can see where my unhealthy choices (saving mentality) were a big part of my decline. And pulling out same ‘ol motions along the way.
Ever notice what happens when you get stuck in ruts of doing the ‘same ‘ol?’ You end up doing what you think you have to / what others expect of you. Then you have to work at it even harder and end up chasing your own tail. Leaving you no time to do what you really want to do.
Or… you can seek out what passionately drives you, so you can’t wait to bounce out of bed each AM, wondering where in the world the day went…
I think it’s safe, we ALL want that.
Listen to your own soul.
What is it asking for?
But more importantly, why are you denying the request?
If you’re anything like me, you are so SICK of hearing your own denials of what you need, you are ready to pull off something completely daring just to prove to yourself you CAN do it!
Are you there yet?
Go water your plants.
It’s time to thrive, friend.
So, what are you going to do?
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