Saturday started off much like any other Saturday. I took my first coffee over to the computer, and started to aimlessly scroll my Facebook feed.
What I soon found was how many directions it took me where I would normally have not spent time. Quickly realizing I was getting sucked into a time vortex that wasn’t going to be productive, I flicked off the switch, and made my way to the patio instead.
It was a gorgeous sunny day. And although cool, I gathered up the sponge padding from my travel trailer, and a few puffy pillows and cozy blanket, and just sat on my very undecorated patio.
My mind quickly reverted back to my life, and the things it needed attending to.
While I did a 360 around my own yard, I felt this overwhelming… nothingness. Like… my yard needed so much work. So much. It needs the things my own hands couldn’t do on their own.
So I got up and started to wander. After walking into a flowerbed with overgrown stalks that needed pulling, and trying not to feel overwhemled with the weeds underfoot, something suddenly clicked.
As I pulled the dried stalks, it hit me. It hit me hard.
Yes, I have a home, but it needs lots of work.
I have a son, but he needs constant guidance.
I have a yard, but it needs an enormouse amount of attending.
And on the list grows.
Thing is, there is so much we do have, which is a wonderful focus. I could take fancy pictures of all the nice things I DO have that would make you want them too. But how about we focus for today on things you may not normally see on my blog? Things I don’t have?
But not in a negative way.
Not having it all is the spice of life. It’s an opportunity to achieve things with our own two hands, in order to gain experience and wealth, in many ways.
It’s easy to spend a bunch of money to buy the things we need and desire. But learning from nothing and making it something has so much more value, don’t you think?
A friend and I had a conversation once. I was whining about doing everything on my own and having no one to help me figure things out. He quickly pointed out, “It’s a really good thing you don’t have the perfect guy on your arm. What would you blog about?”
I had to laugh… because I new exactly what he meant. It made me realize it was perfectly fine to not have it all. And actually a bonus.
My son loves to suggest I buy lottery tickets at the store at every given chance. I suppose you can’t win if you don’t try… but it’s never been my goal to win anything. I feel what we need and desire can be achieved with our own two hands and time well spent.
It’s easy to just want it done. And want it all.
But it’s really better to have less.
Otherwise… what would we have left to learn and discover on our own?
My home is exactly the same as yours. There are areas that are ok, and others that are overwhelmingly bad. It’s just that when I portray my home on the blog, I don’t always wish to show you its worst. It’s like company coming over. You tend to portray its best.
But that can lead to a false sense of reality. Because the reality is the before pictures. I face those harsh realities in every single room everyday. Even the rooms I’ve already redone.
We LIVE in our homes, so picture perfect isn’t accurate. The perfect pictures are meant to inspire you to get out of your chairs, and offer empowerment to change your equally imperfect home into one that you can appreciate and love.
If you’ve EVER felt like you’ve had to go without when looking at my after pictures, please focus on the befores today. I am just a 50ish year old girl, hacking my way through life every single day. Some days are fabulous, full of good things and sunshine. And other days are full of pain, anguish and sorrow. Because that’s just life. And it’s how you deal with life that really counts, not so much what you do and don’t have.
It’s easy to envy a beautiful picture. But just remember… that after use to be a before at some point. That after took a LOT of hard work.
And in my case, my after looks like a before again in a matter of an hour. 🙂
Today, I’m challenging you to focus on what you don’t have. And rejoice!
Then let’s roll up our sleeves and see what we can learn from it.
What’s your best ‘don’t have but now do’ story? I’d love to hear it!