Well, I needed advice. So I wrote myself a Dear Abby styled letter.
And then I answered it with an accumulation of advice I received from a course and therapy. I truly hope it helps anyone that needs it!
Dear Is It Really True? Are Things Better?,
For the longest time, I’ve been a human fire extinguisher. I’ve been running after small sparks and big blazes and everything in between. I’ve head them off at the pass, and even avoided a few from starting.
I have always been on call. Always available. Always…. waiting.
I’ve had to morph from letting go, allowing bad things to happen, to accepting as is.
I’ve avoided public places so I didn’t have to lie saying “Fine!” when asked ‘How are you?’
However, things are better now. Dare I even say good? I’m afraid to. It’s been awhile.
I feel like I can now take a deep breath without the phone ringing.
However, there’s one white elephant standing in the way.
I’ve forgotten how to live.
In the back of my mind, I still feel like I’m on call. Don’t move an inch in case you are needed…
How do I live this life that appears to change minute by minute?
How do I let go and trust others to do their jobs?
How do I even begin to trust success itself, hoping it’ll stick?
Signed… Testing The Success Waters
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Dear You’re On The Right Track,
You HAVE been really busy. But for all the right reasons.
You’ve taken the time to educate yourself while advocating when needed.
However, a good structure has finally been set in place, and it is working today.
Now that the fire is out, it’s time to look at your own life.
Write down the things you use to love to do. Schedule them in! Then go do them.
If the phone rings and it isn’t an emergency, it’s ok to say ‘How about another time?” That does not mean you don’t love. It means you love enough to not let regret creep in for passing off your own life. Joy for all instead!
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Do you want to travel? Try a short getaway for starters. Get your feet wet. Give it a little time until the time feels right.
Take care of yourself. Eat well. Sleep enough. Work up a sweat each day doing something you enjoy. You will gain strength and just FEEL good.
Pamper your house. Put things back in their rightful places each evening. Put out fresh flowers. (yes, you are worth the fuss) Make it pretty again to bring back that sanctuary feeling you’ve been missing.
Use the knowledge you’ve gained to jot down all your fav things to do that help keep stress at bay. Then do them on repeat, even before stress hits. Just think… if you keep doing things you love, what’s not to be happy about?
Live in the moment. Don’t dwell in the past, nor worry about the future. Live right now.
Goals promote growth. Plan some good future things too!
You now have full days to create. Not hour by hour. Create to your heart’s content and fall in love with the process all over again.
Curve your mouth upwards when you feel down. Wish trouble makers good things. Forgive. Let go. Fake it ’til you make it.
Plan things. Scary, isn’t it? Start small and work your way up.
Let joy in. Just because you are enjoying your life does not mean you don’t care about another. Not even applicable.
Stop envying other’s apparent good fortune, and give yourself permission to live your best life, no matter what your circumstances are.
Do YOU well, then you’ll be awesome for those that continue to need you.
Trust success. You’ve earned it.
Signed… Good Job! Now Just Do It.
Now to take my own advice… starting with a short little getaway you’ll be sure to hear about very soon!
Talk about a good student, huh?
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