The morning started off like any other… I woke up, snuggled the cats by my feet, (ok, one was leaning against my chin… love that!), then puttered into the kitchen, rubbing my eyes, hopeful to fire up the perfect brew in short order.
But when I entered the kitchen, it wasn’t its usual clean and pretty self.
That moment of reality hit me like a train.
“Why didn’t I deal with this yesterday?”, I muttered to myself.
Oh yes, I remember why now. We had just returned from a late evening of seeing Star Wars, (loved it!) and grocery shopping (loved not so much). I was just too tired to deal with finishing up. Once 11:30pm struck, I. Was. Done.
I actually really pride myself on a spotless kitchen. I’m one of those people that can live through a relatively messy home, but when it comes to the kitchen, all bets are off. I refuse to start a new meal unless the countertops are bare, and the sink only holds hot, sudsy water, so I can clean up as I go. My kitchen is too small to do anything but.
You small, clean kitchen types know what I speak of.
As I got to the task of cleaning up (before my beloved coffee), it made me reflect on how profound this message is in other areas in my life.
Case in point…
With my aging self, I have to do things differently for me personally. I don’t like spending time on ME, because other things are always higher up on the list.
Until you shut down of course. Then everything stops. Ever notice health ranks all?
I have to schedule time in for just me, whether that’s time for an extra doctor visit, or a fun bike ride adventure to gain some sanity, go to bed earlier for more rest, or stock my home with better food.
Those aren’t just things. They are things I NEED for ME. And ultimately, others also reap the benefits.
So I can either choose to take care of me, or land in higher maintenance mode, needing more time for me than ever before. Plus, have lousier health.
But if I reward myself with better care, I stay fixed, and am capable of doing anything I wish!
Quite the pay off, wouldn’t you say?
Did you ever notice there’s a HUGE reward behind every effort we make?
Think of the one standing thing that you want out of a given task. What is it?
If I take better care of me = I can travel.
If I encourage my son to do more = he can be more.
If I take care of my home = it works longer, stronger and harder for us.
Did you catch sight of something?
farmhouse bathroom makeover
We get really nice prizes! 🙂
So, say you wish you had a clean bathroom. What part of the day would make you really, super appreciate it most? Up the ante! Push! Make it really good!
Then, put it out there…
What you want and when / “Guess what… you can have a spotless bathroom, with everything gleaming ‘first thing in the am…’
Why / Think about it! No more moving all those things off the counter so you can do your own thing. No more scrunching your face when you TRY and see through a water stained mirror. It would be sparkling clean! Wouldn’t you adore that?
What’s my reward? / … in trade for you doing a quick cleanup right before you head to bed. That’s it!”
I do get that I’m talking to adults that understand when we make an effort, we get to reap the benefits.
But… if you think of it as a reward, prize, or a gift, do you think that just may entice you a little more through the rougher tasks?
I’ve used this same technique with the farmhouse bathroom you saw up above. I knew what I wanted, but didn’t want to hire out. So I taught myself to plank a ceiling, and frame a window in a way I truly loved.
I got my dream bathroom! That would have cost HUNDREDS of dollars to be accomplished by hiring another.
But if you’re anything like me, you tend to get overwhelmed with ALL THE TASKS that await you, so it’s easier to flick on Fixer Upper and watch Jo and Chip do it. Or scroll on FB and say hello to a few dozen folks instead of (ahem) going for your walk. You get the idea.
So let’s flat out be more realistic.
WHAT REWARD DO YOU WANT?
You get to choose!
Now all that’s left is to get busy to make it happen.
And the promise of a spotless kitchen awaiting my morning brew most certainly does it for me!
What prize can you reward yourself with today, for a job well done?